The conversation on how to accept compliments has recently come up quite a bit, I had no idea so many people struggled with graciously accepting compliments. I mean, it’s someone saying something nice about you, what’s so bad about that?
Accepting compliments often times makes people feel uncomfortable. From what I’ve noticed, this is because compliments typically highlight some sort of insecurity and can reflect their self-esteem. It may make someone feel as though there are expectations to meet, which may inflict performance anxiety. For more on the psychology behind it, read this article.
When I give out a compliment, I truly mean it. If you look like shit, I’m not going to compliment you. If I tell you I appreciate your help or enjoy your company, I actually mean it.
Don’t refuse the compliment – it insults the giver and makes you look like a dick.
When you brush off or refuse my compliment, you’re essentially telling me I have no clue what I’m talking about.
Sure, there might be people pleasers out there who compliment others just to be nice or make conversation, BUT chances are it’s genuine. Always assume it is.
Here is a step-by-step guide on how to start accepting compliments:
Step 1: Say thank you.
Step 2: Don’t say anything negative and don’t use the word ‘but’ after saying thanks.
Step 3: If it makes you uncomfortable, move on.
That’s all, it’s very simple.
Compliments are a good thing – embrace it!